Backstabbing in a workplace

Backstabbing, or betrayal (as by a verbal attack against one not present) especially by a false friend is pretty common in the office. It's synonyms: betrayal, business, disloyalty, double cross, faithlessness, falseness, falsity, infidelity, perfidy, sellout, treachery, treason, two-timing, unfaithfulness.

Backstabbing Quotes:

1. You start backstabbing me and going against your word, thinking "Oh she'll never find out" but guess what? I heard... (Author Unknown)

2. Why be fake? In the end, the truth comes out and when that  happens, you are standing alone. (Author Unknown) 

3. We used to be tight, then we got into a fight, I didn't exactly know what was going on and the next thing I knew you were gone. (Author Unknown)

4. If you have something to say, have dignity to look at me when you say it. (Author Unknown)

5. A narrow mind and a wide mouth usually go together. (Author Unknown)

6. Soon enough she'll meet the wrong person and finally learn her lesson on backstabbing and shut up. (Author Unknown)

7. If a girl ever steals your man, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. 'Real Man' can't be stolen. (Author Unknown)

8. You are like a penny two-faced and worthless. (Author Unknown)

9. A lot of problems in the world would disappear if we talk to each other instead of about each other. (Author Unknown)

10. Life doesn't change, but people do. So learn to accept that not everybody is who you thought you knew. (Author Unknown)

11. If your talking about me behind my back that just means my life is obviously more interesting than yours. (Author Unknown)

12. You got nothing to lose. You don't lose when you lose fake friends. (Author Unknown)

13. I thought that we were best friends. But I guess it's time to think again. (Author Unknown)

14. I'd rather have an enemy who admits they hate me, instead of a friend who secretly put me down. (Author Unknown)

Allah's Creation for the Mankind

Allah has created mankind primarily so that they may know their creator through his creations. Realization of the supremacy of Allah, although necessary for success in the hereafter, has not been enforced on man - it is a test that is based on the fact that man has been given free will. Understanding the nature of Allah is essential as it has a substantial effect on a Muslim's duties to Allah.

The humble honeybee is an integral part of our ecosystem. Bees provide wholesome honey that nourishes our bodies and acts as a medicament for a slew of illnesses. A recent study in China proved that honey contains the highest concentration of vitamins, minerals and vital hormones to man than any other food on the face of the Earth.

The bee is also the hardest and most efficient worker in all of Allah's Creation. The bee does not even take a day off and is continuously producing honey, building amazing hexagonal hives or pollinating. Without the bee's pollination efforts all the different species of plants and trees would eventually die off. The food chain would come to a screeching and deadly halt. Without bees, vegetation cannot grow as fast or efficiently. And without vegetation for fodder, animals will die. There will be nothing left for humans to eat. Life, on this Earth, would end.

 
Water has been specially created to keep the human body alive. It reaches every point in the body, carries nutrients to all of its 100 trillion cells, and supplies them with oxygen and energy. Its viscosity level has been specially determined so that it can do all of these things. (harun yahya wallpapers) 

MashaAllah, Allah is the All-Knowing, the All-Forgiving…

Every day our taste cells come into contact with acidic foods that are hotter or colder than the body’s temperature. Hot tea, an ice-cold fruity juice, thick coffee, or bitter grapefruit juice all damage these cells to some extent. But, new cells mature in the taste buds to replace those that have completed their life’s work. Even if people are unaware of them, these processes occur so quickly that the taste cells we use at dinner are not those we use at breakfast. Who installed this renewal mechanism in your body? Have you reflected on this? (harun yahya wallpapers)

The main veins or midribs permit leaves to obtain the maximum benefit from solar rays by maintaining their rigidity. Other veins on the surface of the leaf act as a skeleton for its tissues. There is a plan and order in its design. This ain’t any sort of co-incident, but a conscious creation. (harun yahya wallpapers)

From the Book of Allah

 "Let there be no compulsion in religion. Truth stands out clear from error; whoever rejects evil and believes in God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks. And God hears and knows all things." - (The Qur’an, Al-Baqarah, 2: 256)

"Every soul is held in pledge for its deeds." - (The Qur'an, Al-Muddathir, 74:38)

God’s Messenger (peace be upon him) was asked what type of earning was best and replied, ”A man’s work with his hand and every business transaction which is approved." Rafi‘ ibn Khadij, Mishkat al Masabih, hadith no. 2783.

"Woe to those who give short measure, who demand of other people full measure for themselves, but give less than they should when it is they who weigh or measure for others! Do these people not realize that they will be raised up on a mighty Day, a Day when everyone will stand before the Lord of the Worlds? " (The Qur'an, Al-Mutaffifin, 83:1-4)

"O you who believe! Fulfill your obligations" (The Qur'an, Al-Ma'idah, 5:1)

"If the debtor is in difficulty, then delay things until matters become easier for him; still, if you were to write it off as an act of charity, that would be better for you if you only knew."(The Qur'an, Al-Baqara, 2: 280)

On the Day of Judgment, the Prophet (saaw) will be a witness against “one who employs a laborer and gets the full work done by him, but does not pay him his wages." Abu Hurayrah, Sahih al Bukhari, hadith no. 3.430.

"O you who believe! Give of the good things which you have (honorably) earned. And of the fruits of the earth which We have produced for you, and do not even aim at getting anything which is bad, in order that out of it you may give away something, when you yourselves would not receive it except with closed eyes.(The Qur'an, Al-Baqarah, 2: 267)

(article from the Islamicworkplace.com)

Jiwa Damai

  JiwaDamai (inner peace) dan tenang terlalu penting dalam hidup. Ianya suatu yang didambakan oleh setiap orang tetapi terlalu sukar untuk dikecapi. Namun kita BOLEH membina jiwadamai... sesetengah dari kita lebih mudah dan sesetengah lagi agak payah.

Apa yang kita faham tentang jiwadamai? Ia adalah pengawalan dan disiplin diri serta kebolehan menepis gangguan luar seperti emosi, reaksi, dan tindakbalas. Ia membolehkan akal bertindak mengasingkan dunia luar agar tidak mempengaruhi dunia dalaman kita. Bayangkan selama ini, berapa kali kita dilanyak emosi, hilang sabar, marah, dan dendam? Dan berapi kali pula kita menyesal atas tindakan dan pertimbangan kita?

Pernah tak kita menjerit kepada anak-anak, suami atau isteri, rakan sekerja, atau pekerja bawahan kita? Pernah tak rasa geram kepada mereka? Suka tak kita berada di dalam situasi begini? Kenapa kita biarkan tekanan kerja, suratkhabar yang kita baca, tabloid, dan politik, mengganggu perasaan dan fikiran? Adakah obsessi dunia luar terlalu kuat sehingga kita gagal memilih apa yang kita lebih suka. Sekiranya ini berlaku, terbukti jelas kita sudah jauh dari jiwadamai...

Tanpa jiwadamai, perasaan mula memberontak, tak dapat mengawal emosi, kurang pertimbangan, banyak membazir masa dengan memikirlan solusi yang bukan-bukan. Jadi apakah ubatnya?

Bila bangun dari tidur di waktu pagi, elakkan dari memikirkan tentang bebanan dan kesukaran kerja yang menanti, sebaliknya SENYUM dan katakan pada diri "Alhamdulillah, aku diberi peluang sehari lagi insyaAllah, hari ini adalah hari yang lebih baik dan lebih indah.." Katakan juga "Allah tidak menilai hasil tetapi usaha..."dan katakan lagi "aku akan melakukan yang terbaik!", sisipkan dalam fikiran dan mainkan berulang-ulang kali.

Bermula detik bangun tidur sampai ke waktu masuk tidur semula kekalkan wawasan ini didalam hati. Ini tidak bermaksud kita harus menjadi tidak sensitif kepada persekitaran, tetapi kita hanya meletakkan sempadan agar gangguan dunia luar tidak menawan dunia dalaman.

Bila seseorang memberitahu sesuatu yang anda tak suka dengar, elakkan dari berkecil hati, marah, cuba kawal perasaan dengan menangguhkan reaksi anda. Ini bukan pula bermakna menyimpan dendam kesumat, atau membiarkan perasaan marah menggelegak  di dalam (kerana itu juga tidak baik), tetapi cuba melihat dengan perspektif yang lebih luas. Penting sangatkah apa yang dikhabarkan itu? Mengapa perkataan itu sangat mengganggu perasaan? Mungkinkah ada kebenaran? Mungkin juga ada baiknya kalau disimpan dulu jawapan, marah, dan dendam supaya boleh diolah kemudian menjadi kritikan yang membina sahsiah insan!

Ingatlah, setiap lembah yang dituruni, akan ada pendakian kembali, yang akan ada jalan keluar yang pasti! Setiap kejatuhan tentu ada kebangkitan! Seperti malam disusuri siang..  Ketetapan alam adalah lumrah kehidupan. Dengan memahami konsep ini, ianya mungkin boleh membantu menghidupkan jiwadamai..

Kebolehan mengenalpasti dugaan dan cubaan dari Tuhan semesta alam adalah kunci kehidupan dan kesyukuran.. dan akhirnya menumbuh cambahkan jiwadamai.

Mencari Ketenangan

Kehidupan hari ini menjadi semakin sukar dan mencengkam sehingga susah untuk kita mencari ketenangan..

Panduan mengatasi:

1.      Berjalanlah untuk 20 minit di kawasan tenang, bersih, sambil menghirup udara segar dan sambil tersenyum menikmati keindahan alam ciptaan tuhan.

2.      Tidur yang cukup, sebaiknya tidur dalam lingkungan pukul 10-11 malam dan bangun pada pukul 5-6 pagi. Tidur sebanyak 6-7 jam sudah mencukupi dan sebaiknya membaca doa-doa sebelum melelapkan mata.

3.      Selalulah mengunjungi majlis-majlis ilmu sama ada di masjid, surau, atau perkumpulan usrah. Di situ pasti mendapat ketenangan disamping ilmu.

4.      Lakukan hobi yang menceriakan seperti berkebun, memasak, menyulam, menulis blog, mengarang artikel atau novel, dan berbagai kegemaran yang bermanafaat.

5.      Selalu mencari info-info baru dan mempelajari ilmu baru yang lebih menarik!

6.      Luangkan lebih masa bersama anak-anak seperti membaca bersama kerana pengalaman bersama mereka selalunya indah dan menenangkan…

7.      Jangan cepat berputus-asa.

8.      Cuba menggembirakan orang yang disayangi disekeliling kita terutama keluarga.

9.      Berazamlah untuk melakukan sesuatu yang baik, dan cuba bersungguh-sungguh untuk melaksanakannya.

10.  Lupakan kepahitan masa lalu, tetapi tidak kesilapan, kerana pelajaran yang paling berkesan adalah dari kesilapan silam.

11.  Akui kesilapan sendiri namun JANGAN KECEWA melampau!

12.  Buangkan perasaan persaingan yang melampau, dan cuba bersyukur dengan kebolehan serta bakat yang anda punyai.

13.  Biasakan untuk memaafkan, walaupun kepada musuh.

14.  JANGAN BUANG MASA mengkritik dan BERSEMBANG KOSONG.

15.  Jangan terlalu memikirkan KRITIKAN ORANG, asalkan kita tahu kebenaran.

16.  Ingat! Keadaan boleh berubah bila-bila masa, jadi sentiasa bersedia dan redha.

17.  Berkawanlah dengan orang-orang yang baik, berilmu, bersopan, dan berjaya, InsyaAllah beroleh keberkatan dan kekuatan…

18.  Jangan buang masa CEMBURU pada kelebihan orang lain kerana apa yang kita ada, adalah yang terbaik! (Allah yang maha mengetahui dan maha memberi)

19.  JANGAN MALAS atau TAMAK, kuatkan semangat untuk bekerja dan yakinlah pada bakat dan kekuatan diri.

20.  Jangan menyumpah, tapi selalulah bersyukur…

21.  Amalkan sedekah dalam apa juga yang kita mampu, tenaga, masa, dan harta.

22.  Ingat, apa-apa yang kita perolehi bukan hasil usaha sendiri tetapi atas keperitan orang lain adalah tidak bernilai.

23.  Lakukan semua kebaikan kerana Allah, Usaha tanpa tawakkal adalah sombong, Tawakkal tanpa usaha, adalah angan-angan kosong!